Wednesday, October 17, 2018

Jury Duty and Headship in the family


Jury Duty and Headship in the family


Last week I had one week of jury duty; during the trial I noticed there are five lawyers involved in the trial. The judge is a lawyer as well. Does this mean he is smarter and knows more about the law than the other four? No, those four lawyers Bow down to the judge. The judge has a role to play, and has the final authority. Who is the best lawyer in that room? Is it really the judge? However, the two lawyers recognize the rule and authority of the judge, even though he’s just a lawyer as they are.

 Why do they do this?

They do this so that there is an order in the court room. You cannot have five judges in the court room. Everyone will be screaming and yelling. There would be complete disorder, just as in a family there has to be order. Somebody has to have the final say so. There has to be an authority figure in the family, especially for the children. There has to be headship, as God so clearly stated in Scripture.



(1 Corinthians 11:3) But I want you to realize that the head of every man is Christ, and the head of the woman is man,[a] and the head of Christ is God.)



(Eph 5:22-23) Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. 23 For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, His body, of which he is the Savior.



Jesus gave His life and was a servant to the church and so must the husband do the same for his wife.



Now we can see why families are being destroyed. It’s because God order of the husbands headship is neither being establish nor maintained. On the contrary it is been destroyed. Suppose the wife does not want this. The woman may say “I do want a holy husband”, but he is incompetent and does not know how to run a family. The man throws his hands up, because no matter what he does, it is wrong, or not good enough. His instructions to the children and to the wife are undercut, and there is no obedience with the children to the father. His authority in the family is laughable because of the rebellion and treason of his wife to God‘s law.

 The man really thinks to himself; she really wants to be both husband and wife, and reduce me to a child or a puppet. Does she not understand my role in the family? When the husband gives up trying to lead the family, then the wife gets upset. He starts to become a child, a sinner ,alcoholic, adulterous, etc. So the woman loses a strong man and a strong husband, and the children lose a strong father, because she is not willing to follow God‘s clear command.

 The family structure becomes one that is contrary to God‘s will. The children have no firm guidance. They become ping pong balls between the parents.

 What is the father’s role in the family based upon?

 It is based upon service; Leadership, getting all of his family members to heaven. He’s not a bully, he’s a servant for Jesus. As Jesus washed His disciple’s feet so must the husband bow down and wash the feet of his wife and children. He must be willing to give up everything for their salvation. This is true headship, service to those you love. When the husband becomes a servant then the role of the wife becomes very clear to her and she no longer wants to become the man of the house, she wants to become the love and heart of the house.

Men of God

Get off your phones, get off your couch and be the man God has called you to be. Our woman and youth of the world are waiting for you. You want change in your wife; you are the change needed to save the world.

How to begin the healing? Slowly through prayer; if I may suggest to begin with a Our Father or Hail Mary daily, first husband and wife,  then with the children. Or maybe one small Bible verse a night. And later try one decade of the rosary, begin very slow and let prayer become a joy not a burden. Husband this is a good opportunity to take the role as headship and show your family that for now on you will be the servant that God has called you to be.

"The final battle between the Lord and the reign of Satan will be about marriage and the family. Don’t be afraid because anyone who works for the sanctity of marriage and the family will always be fought and opposed in every way, because this is the decisive issue. However, Our Lady has already crushed its head." Sister Lucia of Fatima to Cardinal Carlo Caffara (Archbishop of Bologna)

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Monday, September 17, 2018

Sex and Hunger

Every human being has two instincts that are basic, fundamental and strong. The first one is hunger the other is sex. God implanted both of these inside of us. It is thanks to hunger that we preserve individual life. It is thanks to sex that we preserve social life. God instilled in us these two desires with the intentions to be used for good, but because of human freewill there is the likelihood of abuse in both instincts.
Overindulgence of the hunger instinct it can lead to the sin of gluttony and of health consequences in the body. The same principle can be applied to overindulgence in sex, in that by allowing filth to enter the mind - it corrupts the body in its action and leads the spirit down a dark path. One would not put garbage into the stomach but yet so many put garbage into the mind.

Sex and the two trains
For example, let’s compare the sexual instinct to the analogy of an engineer and two trains; one a slower paced and the other a faster paced train (Sex instinct).
The engineer (God) created and instilled in both trains the desire to go fast as that is the nature of the train. The slower paced one takes its time, goes at a reasonable rate and things progress as it should because it followed the guidance of the engineer.
The faster one didn’t listen to the instructions to go at a reasonable rate of speed and instead chose its own path; not only to its own determent, but that of the passengers and the town as well that suffered when the train crashed.

It’s when we listen to God and follow His instructions then events in our lives tend to work out for the good of everyone;
Whereas if we choose our own way, it usually hurts us and anyone else involved in the situation!
If a member of the Armed Forces were to be sent into battle and deserted their companions on the battlefield because of Fear and the prospect of death, would their Sergeant be inclined to award them the Medal of Honor for being a free thinker and doing what they wanted rather than to carry out his orders? I’m not referring to those free thinkers who are industrious, creative, or ambitious and want to improve our planet or to the quality of life.
I speak of those who tamper with the two basic instincts of hunger and sex and the concept of self-preservation. Sex is a mystery and as such God is allowing humans to cooperate with Him in the creative process. God instructed humankind to, “be fruitful and multiply” and it’s in the sexual act that humans participate in God’s creative design.

The Lord God said, “It is not good for man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him”. (Genesis 2:18)
Then the Lord God caused the man to fall into a deep sleep; and while he was sleeping, He took one of the man’s ribs and then closed up the place with flesh. Then the Lord God made a woman from the rib He had taken out of the man, and he brought her to the man.
The man said, “This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called ‘woman ’, for she was taken out of man”.
That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh. (Genesis 21-24)
God was present at the creation of the world, and in the same aspect man was present at the creation of woman.
Since man is from God and created from dust his characteristics are to be more powerful, have initiative, strength, and be industrious. Man is a more external being and is closer to nature in the sense that he rules over it, loves to hunt, and be the provider.
Woman is more internal because she came out of a man, and therefore is more inclined to be intuitive, responsive, acceptable, submissive, and cooperative, passionate, and loving.

God made man and woman complimentary not only in body, but temperament and spirit as well.
Marriage is a Sacrament (outward signed instituted by God to confer grace) instituted by God and not by man as it is a lifelong union and not a contract that can easily be broken. In Mathew 19:4-6 when asked about divorce by the Scribes and Pharisees, Jesus replied, “Have you never read how He created them when they first came to be? He created them male and female.” And who He said, “a man leaves his father and his mother and cleaves to his wife and the two become one flesh.” And so they are no longer two, but one flesh. “What God has joined together let no man separate”.
There are two important words in the vocabulary of love; the first word is “you” as that should be the focus of your intention and always asks, “how may I serve you?”
The second word is “always” as in, “I will love you always until death do us part.”
In love and marriage there is the lover, the beloved, and the binding element of love which at the center of the union is God.

The outward element of a Sacramental marriage is the exchange of vows and the joining of hands.
The Second is the invisible grace which symbolizes the marriage between Christ and His Church, and this bond between Jesus and His Church can never be broken.  If Christ had many churches instead of one this would be spiritual adultery would it not? Husbands are called to love their wives as Christ loves the Church even to the point of offering his life for her! Total sacrifice is the author of true everlasting love. In this current age, how are men and woman called to live out a Sacramental marriage with all the attacks on marriage?

Our Lord (the Bread of Life) is ever present in the Eucharist in order to sustain love in the marriage bond, and confession to help heal the brokenness of an unhappy marriage!
Jesus is always faithful to His bride the Church and has asked us to be faithful in our marriage covenant.
The way you treat our Eucharistic Lord in most cases will coincide with how you treat the marriage covenant too.

If there is no fidelity to the Eucharist and the Church, then most likely there is no fidelity in the marriage of the Sexual act.
The intimacy, between the husband and wife must be likened to the intimacy of Christ for his Church.
If you can’t ask Christ into your bedroom and the marital act, then you have allowed Satan in.
The same concept can be applied to the priest, his role in the Church, and his commitment to the Eucharist. If the priest has no fidelity to his mother the Church and no intimate love of our Lord in the Eucharist then his ability to remain celibate in his vocation becomes very difficult.

Saturday, August 25, 2018

The Greatest Miracles

Where do the greatest miracles take place?

Our Lord’s words from the Diary of Saint Faustina:
“In the tribunal of mercy [the Sacrament of Reconciliation]... the greatest miracles take place and are incessantly repeated” (Diary 1448). 

I would have never thought it would be in the confessional, but that’s what Our Lord told Saint Faustina. I would have thought it would be some healing service, or I would have to go to Lourdes, or Fatima, or to one of these apparition sites. But, no, Our Lord says in the Confessional.

Our Lord Speaks:
To avail oneself of this miracle, it is not necessary to go on a great pilgrimage or to carry out some external ceremony; it suffices to come with faith to the feet of My representative and to reveal to him one’s misery, and the miracle of Divine Mercy will be demonstrated” (Diary 1448).

He doesn’t say; go to Medjugorje or Lourdes, or Fatima, but to the confessional. How many of you
have been to Medjugorje? What’s the key focus at Medjugorje? “the Sacraments.” The confessionals are packed with people. This is the miracle of Medjugorje. Conversion takes place in the confessional.



Why does Our Lord say, come to Me in the confessional and reveal one’s misery?

We are wounded. We need healing.

Oh, how miserable souls must be who do not take advantage of God’s miracle of mercy. What’s Our Lord say again? We are like a decaying corpse and from a human standpoint, there would be no hope. But not so with God; He wants us next to His Sacred Heart and healed of our misery.

Our Lord told Saint Faustina:
“I am only hidden by the priest, but I, Myself, act in your soul. Here the misery of the soul meets the God of mercy. Tell souls that from this fount of mercy souls draw graces solely with the vessel of trust. If their trust is great, there is no limit to My generosity (Diary 1602)... The proud remain always in poverty and misery, because My grace turns away from them to humble souls” (Diary 1602).

When the priest absolves you of your sin, it is Christ who is forgiving you.

Our Lord Speaks:
“My daughter, just as you prepare in My presence, so also you make your confession before Me. The person of the priest is, for Me, only a screen. Never analyze what sort of a priest it is that I am making use of; open your soul in Confession as you would to Me, and I will fill it with My light.” (Diary 1725) 

The priest veils Christ.
Christ, Himself, is forgiving you through the priest.

To Follow the Lord

“But woe to you who are rich for you have received your consolation.”(Luke: 6, 24)

“And He called to him the Twelve, and began to send them out two by two, and gave them authority over the unclean spirits. He charged them to take nothing for their journey except a staff; no bread, no bag, no money in their belts … and they cast out many demons, and anointed with oil many that were sick and healed them.” (Mark 6:7, 13)



He instructed them to take nothing for the journey, no food, no sack and no money in their belts, which seems like a very odd command. You would think our Lord would better equip his apostles in their journey. What leader in his right mind would send his troops into the battlefield so poorly prepared? Would it not been better if He would’ve supplied them with plenty of food and plenty money for their journey? Our Lord’s command seems impractical and irresponsible. This is why we should pay close attention to it. Where human wisdom fails, divine wisdom is at work. He commanded them to take nothing for the journey, he commits them to poverty.

The church calls this evangelical poverty. It is poverty because it denounces wealth and goods. It is evangelical because it announces the good news (The Gospel). This is the vow of poverty taken by those in religious orders; they renounce the right to own anything.

Greater care for Gods creation; This deliberate choice to denounce material things of this world helps
those in the religious world to give greater care for the things God gives them. They do not squander
and waste precious things from God. It’s the deliberate choice to be totally dependent on God and not
on their own resources! Our Lords words to his apostles about poverty apply to us as well. Even though we have not taken a vow of poverty His words still apply to us. We are to live a simple life.

Our Lord is not asking us to live the same poverty as like Mother Teresa or St. Francis did. But we are called to live in poverty according to our state of life; not to be attached to material goods of this world. We are to provide for our family and our state of life as good stewards of what God gives us. But we need to pay close the attention to the words of our Lord Jesus Christ.

They speak of the nature of what it means to be a follower of our Lord, which is simplicity and trust.

Jury Duty and Headship in the family

Jury Duty and Headship in the family Last week I had one week of jury duty; during the trial I noticed there are five lawyers invol...