Jury Duty and Headship in the family

Jury Duty and Headship in the family

Last week I had one week of jury duty; during the trial I noticed there are five lawyers involved in the trial. The judge is a lawyer as well. Does this mean he is smarter and knows more about the law than the other four? No, those four lawyers Bow down to the judge. The judge has a role to play, and has the final authority. Who is the best lawyer in that room? Is it really the judge? However, the two lawyers recognize the rule and authority of the judge, even though he’s just a lawyer as they are.

 Why do they do this?

They do this so that there is an order in the court room. You cannot have five judges in the court room. Everyone will be screaming and yelling. There would be complete disorder, just as in a family there has to be order. Somebody has to have the final say so. There has to be an authority figure in the family, especially for the children. There has to be headship, as God so clearly stated in Scripture.

(1 Corinthians 11:3) But I want you to realize that the head of every man is Christ, and the head of the woman is man,[a] and the head of Christ is God.)

(Eph 5:22-23) Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. 23 For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, His body, of which he is the Savior.

Jesus gave His life and was a servant to the church and so must the husband do the same for his wife.

Now we can see why families are being destroyed. It’s because God order of the husbands headship is neither being establish nor maintained. On the contrary it is been destroyed. Suppose the wife does not want this. The woman may say “I do want a holy husband”, but he is incompetent and does not know how to run a family. The man throws his hands up, because no matter what he does, it is wrong, or not good enough. His instructions to the children and to the wife are undercut, and there is no obedience with the children to the father. His authority in the family is laughable because of the rebellion and treason of his wife to God‘s law.

 The man really thinks to himself; she really wants to be both husband and wife, and reduce me to a child or a puppet. Does she not understand my role in the family? When the husband gives up trying to lead the family, then the wife gets upset. He starts to become a child, a sinner ,alcoholic, adulterous, etc. So the woman loses a strong man and a strong husband, and the children lose a strong father, because she is not willing to follow God‘s clear command.

 The family structure becomes one that is contrary to God‘s will. The children have no firm guidance. They become ping pong balls between the parents.

 What is the father’s role in the family based upon?

 It is based upon service; Leadership, getting all of his family members to heaven. He’s not a bully, he’s a servant for Jesus. As Jesus washed His disciple’s feet so must the husband bow down and wash the feet of his wife and children. He must be willing to give up everything for their salvation. This is true headship, service to those you love. When the husband becomes a servant then the role of the wife becomes very clear to her and she no longer wants to become the man of the house, she wants to become the love and heart of the house.

Men of God

Get off your phones, get off your couch and be the man God has called you to be. Our woman and youth of the world are waiting for you. You want change in your wife; you are the change needed to save the world.

How to begin the healing? Slowly through prayer; if I may suggest to begin with a Our Father or Hail Mary daily, first husband and wife,  then with the children. Or maybe one small Bible verse a night. And later try one decade of the rosary, begin very slow and let prayer become a joy not a burden. Husband this is a good opportunity to take the role as headship and show your family that for now on you will be the servant that God has called you to be.

"The final battle between the Lord and the reign of Satan will be about marriage and the family. Don’t be afraid because anyone who works for the sanctity of marriage and the family will always be fought and opposed in every way, because this is the decisive issue. However, Our Lady has already crushed its head." Sister Lucia of Fatima to Cardinal Carlo Caffara (Archbishop of Bologna)

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